“I love you.” Sharing those three little words is a major part of any relationship. So to help you out, this is how to tell someone you love them.
Not only is spilling an “I love you” super nerve racking when it comes to saying it for the first time, but it’s also a critical moment that either halts or transforms your relationship. Much like a proposal, if an “I love you” is rejected, things likely go down hill, but if those feelings are mutual your relationship can blossom. So we think it is important to know how to tell someone you love them.
From timing to location, there are a number of details that go into that sometimes life changing moment. So, what are they?
What does saying “I love you” mean to you?
If saying “I love you” is a huge deal for you, it is vital to think about what it really means. Does saying it mean you are 100% committed? Or does it mean you have fun together? Love means different things to everyone, so before you say it be sure you know what it is you actually speak.
At the same time you may not know what love means to your partner. Is it something they are hopeful to hear or scared of? For people with trust issues, it causes anxiety. Others may take it more seriously than you meant it. Think about that before speaking the words.
#1 Is this your first time saying it?
If this is your first time telling someone you love them, it can be difficult to be sure you’re ready to take that step. This will most likely be something you remember for a long time. So being sure that what you feel is in fact love is important.
But how do you do that? If you have a great time together and are always happy, that is wonderful. But love tends to be a stronger, more overwhelming feeling than that. If you think about this person when they aren’t around and bring them up in random conversations you get closer to the signs of love.
#2 Have they already said it?
If your partner already said I love you, you’re lucky. A lot of the pressure is off. You no longer have that fear of rejection or a bad reaction.
So pretty much anywhere, anytime, and anyhow will do. They have probably been dying for you to say it back.
#3 It doesn’t matter who says it first.
Yes, being the first to say “I love you” is a bit more nerve racking because you open the door to a conversation that can’t be closed. But other than that, it does not matter who says it first. It all comes out sooner or later If you love each other, no matter who speaks the words first.
And even if it doesn’t work out, it still doesn’t matter. Some people think saying it first means you love them more and lost the power. But that is not how love works. All saying it first means is that you’re open to being vulnerable and need them to know how you feel.
#4 Have they ever been in love?