While all relationships are different, there are still similarities in each one. Here’s what a healthy relationship timeline is supposed to look like.
Think back to all of your relationships. They all started and developed relatively the same, right? Well, they should have. A relationship timeline – no matter who you date – should be relatively similar. That is, if it’s a healthy relationship.
Each relationship goes through different stages at different times. And while some couples can stay in certain phases for longer than others, they still go through the same timeline. You may think it sounds silly that a relationship timeline exists but stick with me.
Why it’s important for relationships to grow and change
Your relationship will never be the same as it was when you first began dating. The excitement and lust slows down and you end up in a comfortable routine. This may seem scary at first, but it’s actually very important – and very healthy.
You’re not supposed to stay in the same stage of a relationship. You need to grow and change as a couple. You learn more about each other, you see someone for all that they are, and you learn how to live together in harmony while enjoying each other’s company. Those steps are crucial for living happily with someone.
What a healthy relationship timeline is supposed to look like
If you look back on all your relationships, you may realise that not all of them will have followed this timeline. And to be honest, those relationships probably weren’t the healthiest or the happiest.
In order to have a healthy and happy relationship, this is what it should look like. These steps and stages are crucial for getting to know your partner as a whole and introducing them to your world and who you are at the same time.
#1 The initial interest. This is when you first notice that the other person is someone you want to get to know more. You basically get a crush on them initially. It’s also when you start asking friends about them and you start creeping on their social media accounts. All those butterflies and feel-good vibes start rolling in.
#2 The first date. At this point, you’ve already spoken to them and decided you want to try it out. You know them well enough to want a date with them and so the first date has arrived. This is when you really get to see how you connect intimately and how your chemistry is.
#3 The first kiss. This can happen right after the first date or it can also happen after the second or even third date. No matter what, you should always at least go on one date before you kiss them. That kiss is a powerful moment. With this kiss, you see how compatible you two are and your feelings either grow stronger or dissipate.
#4 The first time. After you’ve been on some dates with them and you are happy with the way things are going, it’s time to turn up the heat in the bedroom. Now, depending on how old you are and how comfortable you are with someone, this step in the relationship timeline may happen much later and at a slower pace.
The point is, it does happen eventually. Unless you have religious reasons for not having sex until marriage, this step happens after a month or two. It’s all about where your comfort level is.